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Dear Mama How do we resist the urge to rescue when we’ve been taught our whole lives to be saviors?  How do we set boundaries when the world is burning? What do we do when we’ve been deemed the backbone of the community but our backbones are brittle and breaking? Since the election these are the questions and conversations black women have been having online and especially in group chats.  So we decided to explore what this line in the sand means for Black mothers in the midst of state sanctioned brutality.  

In this episode Thea and I explore the parallels between domestic violence relationships and Black mothers’ relationship with America.  

We dive into:

• Why it’s more important than ever that Black mothers set boundaries 
• The role cultural coping plays in Black mothers ignoring their needs
• Vulnerability & why Black mothers feel we must do it all
• What Stevie Wonder songs reflect this moment

PLUS – Thea shares a testimony about getting a new mattress and I’m excited to share the details of our next virtual event Down By the Riverside during our Church announcements, praise reports and prayer list requests segment.  In our Black Mama Say segment for this episode, where we put our own twist on sayings from Black mamas, we do something a little different this time.  Instead of a Black Mama say, we’re choosing theme songs for ourselves to carry us through this moment in time.

SYLLABUS

Church Announcements:

• Responsive Reading –  Black Mama Magic Card Deck 
  • Black Mama Magic Card: Card #21  “My Motherhood Is Rooted In Liberation”
• Crystal
  • The 92%, Boundaries & Black Motherhood Episode Playlist
  • Black Maternal Health Week 2025
  • Down By the Riverside
• Thea
  • Bringing Flowers with Akilah S. Richards and Thea Monyee
  • One-on-One Joy Immersion Sessions with Thea Monyee

Mac & Cheese:

In an effort to expand knowledge and combat misinformation and disinformation we create a list references/sources for our listeners to dive into.  This list includes any books, videos, podcast, etc. that we’ve mentioned in the episode or that will help you gain a well informed perspective. ENJOY!

Here’s what we got into in this episode:

• Books:
  • Set Boundaries, Find Peace: A Guide to Reclaiming Yourself by Nedra Glover Tawwab
  • Reproductive Justice: An Introduction by Loretta Ross
  • Rest Is Resistance: A Manifesto by Tricia Hersey
  • We Will Rest!: The Art of Escape by Tricia Hersey
• Articles:
  • Black Culture Needs to Break Up With White Culture by Thea Monyee
  •  Black Women Are Done Reclaiming Power After the 2024 election
  • Honoring Reproductive Justice Founders during Black History Month
  • CaShawn Thompson Black Girl Magic
• Videos:
  • Gabrielle Union clip discusses no longer going 50/50 with Dwayne Wade & vulnerability
  • Red Table Talk With Nedra Glover Tawwab
  • Harry Belafonte Conversation w/ MLK “integrating into burning house”
• Podcast:
  • Therapy for Black Girls: Maintaining Digital Boundaries with Nedra Glover Tawwab
  • Therapy for Black Girls: Am I Codependent with Nedra Glover Tawwab
  • Fare of the Free Child
  • What I Let Die with Akilah S. Richard

Episodes mentions/relevant to this episode: 

• DBM Ep 62 Grief and Black Motherhood
• DBM Ep 54: Birth Justice, Liberation & the Power of Black Midwives w/ Jamarah Amani & K.Sanderson

Full Episode Transcript

Black Mama Say: Let me put it to you like this.

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