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Dear Mamas
What if I told you much of the growth our children may need in order to show up in the ways we’re nurturing them to show up comes through falling in love? When we tell our children not to focus on love are we parenting out of fear? What message does that send to our children about the priority to place on intimate relationships and what generational impact does that have on our culture? How do we raise children who know how to love?
In this raw and reflective episode, we take a deep dive into the Netflix series, that had EVERYBODY in a chokehold Forever, using it as a powerful springboard to unpack the complexities of Black motherhood, teen love, and generational parenting. We’re talking parenting fears, the tightrope between nurturing and protecting our babies, and the real-life challenges that come with raising Black teens in a world that doesn’t always love them back. Yall know us! So honest storytelling, aha moments, and of course, plenty of laughter and love.
We also get into:
- The roots of catastrophic parenting styles and the fear of raising fuck boys
- How generational trauma shows up at the dinner table (and in the group chat)
- Teaching our children vulnerability & letting go
- Why was Keisha’s Daddy so triggering
PLUS – Crystal gives a s/o to Mara Brock Akil for putting text on the screen, NeKisha questions Crystal is good at training real dogs or Ques, and Thea offers advice on how to live like we’ll survive this moment in time. In our Black Mama Say segment for this episode, where we put our twist on sayings from Black mamas, and the saying we’re twisting this episode is “Let Me Hush Though.”
SYLLABUS
To expand knowledge and combat misinformation and disinformation, we create a list of references/sources for our listeners to dive into. This list includes any books, videos, podcasts, etc. that we’ve mentioned in the episode or that will help you gain a well-informed perspective. ENJOY!
Responsive Reading/Church Announcements/Praise Reports/Prayer List Requests:
- Responsive Reading
- Black Mama Magic Card Deck: Card #15 “Fuck Fear. An Affirmation”
- Word From Our Ancestors: ““It occurred to me that if one could make a people lose touch with their capacity to create, lose sight of their will and their power to make art,
then the work of subjugation of colonization is complete.” – bell hooks, art on my mind
- Events
- JOIN US for Talk Back: Black Keisha, Black Mamas & Forever – We’ll be watching & discussing the scenes that made you TALK BACK to the screen. This is a FREE EVENT. SPACE IS LIMITED. REGISTER NOW
- Praise Report
Mac & Cheese:
Important definitions and links to books, organizations, videos, articles, etc mentioned in this episode.
- Podcast
- What Let It Die (ILID) hosted by Akilah S. Richards
- Articles
- Mara Brock Akil Grew Up With Judy Blume’s Very White Characters. In Forever, She Made Them Black
- Mara Brock Akil Opened Up About “Forever” On Netflix, Not Caring About Turning White Characters Black, And Wanting To See More Men Be Vulnerable
- ‘A Black Woman Got Them Judy Blume’
- ‘Forever’ Creator Mara Brock Akil Wrote an Open-Ended Finale in Case Netflix Series Doesn’t Get a Season 2
- Howard University’s Record Applications Show Boom in Black Colleges
- Beyond Affirmative Action: HBCUs and the Time For Equitable Funding
- State-run, land-grant HBCUs are owed more than $13 billion, the White House says
- HBCUs have been underfunded by $12 billion, federal officials reveal
- 8 Myths About HBCUs That Simply Aren’t True—and Why
- Fewer Black men are enrolling in HBCUs. Here’s why and what’s being done
- Why Black Women Struggle More With Domestic Violence
- Marva Johnson confirmed as FAMU president amid protests, backlash
- Video
- DBM Ep 71 Black Keisha, Black Mamas & Forever Companion Playlist: We put together some 90s love songs to take Mamas back to their teenage love days.
Black Mama Say: “Let Me Hush Though.”
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